Yesterday my husband and me celebrated 36 years of marriage! Whew, that’s a long time, a lifetime when you consider how long marriages last these days.
I just love this guy! He is a good man, a stable man, a man who would do whatever his neighbor needs. . .in fact I told him once that he makes a better Christian than me. He knows what’s expected of him and he passes with flying colors!
On the other hand, I have not always measured up to my own expectations. But that’s just me. I do this to myself and it makes for some rocky conversations. What do I mean? I mean that I can be heard to say to him, “I just wish you could tell me how you feel about that.” Or “I never know how to take you, just give me a clue”. And again “It’s called conversation ~ I say something then you say something.”
Does this sound familiar??? This has been the pattern for all these years. I don’t know why it bothered me so much, but it did, until now. I may be slow on the uptake but it did take 36 years to come to peaceful terms with my husband’s silent love and devotion.
There are the sweet surprises like this morning when I went out to get in my car to drive our grandson to pre-school, I noticed that he had washed my car. May not seem significant to you, but it is to me. He will do things for me but he won’t tell me that he has. It is a present waiting to be found. Another time it will be that he did the dishes when he knew I was just too tired to get them done. If I happen to mention that I would love to have such and such, the next time he goes shopping he will buy it and bring it home, well within reason of course. It would be fun to say, “boy I’d love to have that new car, oh wait, he did! He did because my old car was OLD, had 87,000 miles and no longer had air-conditioning. So you can imagine that over these 36 years there have been many “sweet surprises”
I used to get annoyed when he would leave things for me to find, things that he had done in the house that needed done. I thought that he just wanted to see how long it would take me to “find” his “gift”. But it was this morning that the “light” finally went on when I noticed how nice and clean my car was and I knew he did it.
How many sweet surprises do our loved ones do for us that we don’t recognize as sweet surprise gifts? For me there were thousands of them over the course of 36 years.
My husband is a man of very few words. He is a man who likes to tease and to please. He is a conundrum for those who don’t know him well but he is my conundrum who has taught me to look for the surprises in life.
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY HONEY!!!