Gentle Is The One. . .

Gentle is the one who does “not break the crushed reed, or snuff the faltering wick” (Matthew 12:20). Gentle is the one who is attentive to the strengths and weaknesses of the other and enjoys being together more than accomplishing something. A gentle person treads lightly, listens carefully, looks tenderly, and touches with reverence. A gentle person knows that true growth requires nurture, not force. Let’s dress ourselves with gentleness. In our tough and often unbending world our gentleness can be a vivid reminder of the presence of God among us’.                     Henri Nouwen


Gentle is the one. . . . . Sometimes it is hard to see gentleness in our world today.  We are being lambasted with horrific scenes of beheadings and riots,  neighborhood shootings, illnesses and it goes on and on.

It is always good to remember the God of Life is with us always.  I know, it is difficult sometimes to realize this or even feel God’s presence, but God is in us and for us.  Cry out to the heavens to Jesus’ mother asking for her comfort and solace when times get too rough.  It could be anything you are going through right now.   Give it to God, yell at God if you have to, God has huge shoulders and can handle it.  Sometimes we just have to get it off our chest to feel better.

I had a friend who told me that we can’t yell at God.  I told her that is it perfectly ok to yell at God.  This is how we let God know what is on our mind and heart.  If we love God, really love God it is ok to yell.  Don’t lovers do the same.  You confide to the one who loves you best. . .you yell when you  get irritated don’t you?  Job questioned God didn’t he?  We are no different. . .let God know how you feel and before you know it you are feeling better and I’m willing to bet that God has given you new motivations and ideas to make this life more gentle, more loving, more like God.

“A gentle person knows that true growth requires nurture, not force.  Let’s dress ourselves with gentleness.  In our tough and often unbending world our gentleness can be a vivid reminder of the presence of God among us.”


Sandy Ozanich (c) September 5, 2014

Go Placidly Amid The Noise. . .

Because our world is in turmoil these days and because I am uneasy about what is happening at home and abroad (perhaps your are too),   I thought a little look back would be good for the soul.  I came across a piece of literature that is old, very old and speaks of things to help us along in life.  I am speaking of the piece Desiderata.  It was found in Old Saint Paul’s Church, Baltimore, MD in 1693.  I would like to reprint it here to think about, ponder,and meditate about. Many of the lessons listed here still work today, in fact it all is worthy of a close look.  Some of the language is outdated, but it was 1693!


Go placidly amid the noise & haste, & remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly & clearly; listen to others, even the dull & ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain & bitter;

for always there will be greater & lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

 Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery.

But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;

many persons strive for high for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.   Especially, do not feign affection.

Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity & disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of yourth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.

But do not distress yourself with imaginings.  Many fears are born of fatigue & loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees & the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe, is unfolding as it should.

Therefore, be at peace with God, whatever you conceive him to be, and whatever your labors & inspirations,

in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery & broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.

Be careful.

Strive to be happy.


Desiderata means:  (from

plural noun, singular desideratum.

1.things wanted or needed; the plural of desideratum :

“Happily-ever-after” and “eternal love” appear to be the desiderata of the current generation; to whom “fat chance” say those of us who are older,wiser, and more curmudgeonly.
May all of us be blessed and find the richness in life, love, work and play, but mostly find richness in God.
Sandy Ozanich (c) August 31, 2014



Our World In Crisis

I have been listening to the news lately, actually most of the time, I just like news.  But I am increasingly concerned for the people being slaughtered by ISIS in Iraq.  The bad situation in Ferguson Missouri, the borders of our country, etc.  I could list so many things right now.

And no matter what your politics, I just want to pray and plead with God to stop the madness.  I know many others do as well.  Do you remember the day AFTER the 9/11 how everyone seemed to actually put aside their differences?  Can we do that now?

Dear God, hear my plea?  Hear all of our pleas Lord.  We are painfully aware of the destruction, pain and death happening in many corners of the world.  What can we do Lord?  How do we respond?  Give us a sign O Lord, give ear to our cries.  People are dying, people are starving, people are being exploited, and forced to flee their homes.  Help us Lord to help you.

I feel helpless as many do in all corners of the world.

Hear our prayers O Lord, we pray. . .Amen

Sandy Ozanich (c) August 29, 2014

Are You Going To Keep Me Safe?

Anyone who lives in or near Pittsburgh, PA knows about our amusement park Kennywood Park.  Kennywood has been around since the late 1800’s.  It is a great place to go and ride rides, eat great foods and enjoy the walk around the park, a real family place.  It was here that I learned a very great lesson and it came through my 3 yr. old granddaughter Natalie.

It was a family affair at Kennywood Park on August 21, 2014.  Both my daughters and one of the son-in-law’s, all 4 grand-kids, and my son Brian were there.  We walked around, watched the kiddies in Kiddyland then moved on to the “big kid” rides.  The fun of just walking around and watching these little ones enjoy this day was enough for me even without riding anything.  Nothing is sweeter for me than to be with these little ones and watch their joy.

We came upon a ride called Parachutes.  It is a ride where you sit on an oblong seat, safety latch in and go around in circles at a nice clip, the ride then starts to move in an circle as if it on it’s side, one side is low and the other side of the circle goes high,  As I was in line with Natalie, she was holding my hand and she says, “I don’t like to go high”.   I told her, “It’s ok, cause you will be with me.”  She then asks, “Are you going to keep me safe?”  I told her, “absolutely Natalie.  I won’t let anything happen to you.  I will keep you safe.”  That was all Natalie needed to hear.

When we got on the ride, I put her on the seat first, then I climbed in next to her with my arm around her back.  She gently took my arm, and pulled it around her body and tucked my hand into the space between her and I.  She said, “That’s better”

We rode the Parachutes twice that day and the whole time I “kept her safe”.

This interaction with Natalie made me think of how we look toward God.  I think many of us look to God to “keep us safe” and we want to wrap God’s arm around us to help us feel the safety.  God is a loving God, a big God and a God who wants the best for us.  We have to be willing to hand our trust over to God, to say, “I want you to keep me safe” the whole time knowing that it is in God that we live and move and have our being.  Having the trust and faith of a child endears us to our Creator and our Creator to us.

As adults it is hard to hand over our very selves to God, trusting in the goodness, love and guidance that God offers.  After all, we want to do it ourselves. . .we are adults, we know what we are doing, don’t treat me like a kid. . .in this way perhaps we are acting like the kids who stomp their little feet on the ground because “I want to do it myself”.  

Now is time to turn our lives, our souls, our trust over to God ~ God will keep us safe!

Sandy Ozanich (c) August 28, 2014


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What Do You Say Lord?

So, what do I say to you Lord?  Do I pray  for health, love, prosperity?  What else can I ask for that I do not already have?  I have your love and the consolation that one day I will see you face to face.

The only thing I can pray for is that I can love you in the way that you desire.  For if I love you as you desire, then I already have everything I need.  For what good is this life if we cannot love, if we cannot see you in the faces of all those who we come in contact with?

It is so hard sometimes to love.  It is a frustrating thing not to be able to feel love for another especially when that one makes your heart anxious or fearful or sad or lonely.  I say that I will keep on trying to be a loving person, yet I only succeed in not loving or being kind.

I remember during the homily at my uncle’s funeral the priest was saying that we all are called and should try to follow in Christ’s footsteps.  What my ears heard was “fumble” in Christ’s footsteps.  I thought about it and realized that “fumble” is really what I do and that it is OK to fumble and fall.  Didn’t Jesus do as much under the weight of the cross?  But, he got up and went on.  That is the lesson.  Not so much to fumble, but the grace to get up and keep on going.  Can I get back up and keep on going?  No, not unless I ask for the grace to do it.  In the garden, Jesus prayed not to have to keep going, but he prayed that the Father would grant him the grace to do his will, not his own will.  That is what I pray for, to do the will of God in my life.

I really don’t want to pray for anything else but the grace to live in t he love of Jesus.  I figure, Jesus knows better than any what it is I need.  He won’t abandon me and leave me without what I need in this life.  How can I ask for anything more that that?  My only desire is his desire.

I am ashamed that I continually fall so short on my side.  I must say with Paul, “Why is it that I do the things I hate and I don’t do the things I love?”  It’s a mystery to me.  Why it that my heart won’t do what my head knows is right and just?  Yet, I will keep going for “to whom shall I go?  You have the words of everlasting life!”

I often chide myself thinking, “just who do you think you are anyway?  A saint?  Can you really think that all you need to do is ask for the grace to live in abandonment to God’s will?  You keep doing things that aren’t loving or Christian.  And if you should tell someone about this desire, they would think you are  crazy.”  But, then I realized that these thoughts are not of God.  Why would God, who loves me say those things?  Is not his desire that all of his children live in abandonment to his will?

What a tangled web we weave. . .in our own minds!


I found this piece of writing yesterday while cleaning out a room that has accumulated so much “stuff”.  When I saw this I thought, “Did I write this?”  Yes I did because I remember my uncle’s funeral and the priest who said  we must try to follow in Christ’s footsteps.

It is really awesome to look back on things that have been written so long ago.  I enjoyed reading it again, I hope you enjoying reading it for the first time.

Written – May 17th, 1989


Sandy Ozanich (c) ~ August 27, 2014

Hope For The World. . .

The other day, James Wright Foley, an American Journalist was beheaded by ISIS.  My heart is broken.  This violence continues to get worse, day after day.  Christians, Jews, and even Muslims are targets of terrorists who believe that their mission is to kill “infidels” in order to gain paradise no matter where in the world they live.

What do we do?  We pray and we pray very hard and we pay attention to what is happening around the world.  We can no longer afford to be ignorant of the possibilities that Christians all over the world face.  As it says in Scripture, ‘Pray for the peace of Jerusalem, pray for the peace of all’.  

God is not responsible for this terror.  I hear from some others that God is punishing us or it is God’s hand causing this evil. God is LOVE, God does not cause evil, that is the domain of the evil one and we must remember this and pray again.

Look, I am not so much worried for myself or my husband, we are in our 60’s, but I do worry for our children and grandchildren.  What kind of a world are we leaving to our next generations?  I believe what God has told us, “All things work together for good for those who love God, who are called according to God’s purpose”.  And again, “For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor present things,* nor future things, nor powers, nor height, nor depth,* nor any other creature will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”  (Romans 8:28, 38,39 NAB)

I have had a mission of my own which was and is to pray for those Christians who are being persecuted, tortured and martyred for their faith.  I have had this on my soul for years.  Now we see that this persecution is ongoing and getting worse.

I ask all of you to pray deeply about what is happening with ISIS and other terrorists around the world.

Let us also not forget those who are being being killed due to racial tensions,from drug deals gone bad, etc. There all sorts of reasons that people are being killed in this country.  We need to stand together join our hands and hearts in prayer, God will hear our cries!!!

Be a blessing, because you ARE blessed!

Sandy Ozanich (c) August 20, 2014